Clutter & Flow

My Napolitana Grandma, Adele Roth–Adela/Adelina Zollo/a Roth, was a firecracker. Pictured left with her two brothers (I think?). Definitely il fratello Louis/Luigi on the right, the famously charismatic and gifted musician I had the privilege of meeting with his partner, Carl, in my early years. She used to make me cry as a child because…

Emotional Hygiene

I just used a bidet for the first time. If me saying that reads as TMI (too much information), that proves the point that there are some kinds of hygiene we under-privilege and under-normalize in the United States. In Europe, say the word “bidet” and it’s as if you said “sink” or “shower.” (Image source) Next…

The Things We Carry

My favorite bookstore in childhood was “The Bookery” in a place called Placerville, California (Pictured above, source and source) Every day-after-Christmas from the ages of 0 through 9, my dad and uncle (and sometimes my mom) would take me there. We would spend hours. And I would spend all of my holiday gift money on stacks and…

A Love that Blinds / An Ode to Home

I’m sitting in a loft on the edge of Piazza Amadeo in the early morning hours. The twenty-four hour clock on my phone reads 06:07. A rhythmic creak of a bed frame next-door accompanies the whirl of the street cleaners out my window. Here I am in Napoli, Italia. In a city that is truly…

Dynamic Duos

Let’s talk about a different 45. The almost-45 years that my parents have been together. No, they never thought they’d be a trio with me in the mix–what brought them together like magnets was music. They lived for music and their spiritual quests in tandem. When I was on a 9+ hour flight a day…

Excerpts

It all happened alongside a beach bonfire. I had recently come back to town–Santa Cruz, California that is, and some creative, inspiring, interesting folk I used to know invited me to the beach. There’s something about bonfires. They’re old world. People throughout history have gathered around flames to warm themselves and share stories. They’re a different…

Normalizing Character Development

One of the problems with Harvey Weinstein and the myth of binaries is that we’re let off the hook. If there are only 1% of “bad” people, and all the rest of us are “good,” the world of injustice continues without a hitch. A few seconds ago, I typed “Me too” into my Facebook status–acknowledging…

Zooming-In

Optical illusions are curious things (pictured right, source). We see what we see. That is, at first. Then, our minds and eyes are stretched to see something we didn’t catch to begin with. I remember first starting work at Condé Nast Digital and Vogue Runway (then Style.com). Mine was the task of managing SMS / text…

Time to Celebrate

I’ve had the pleasure of attending two parties this past year that were hosted by City Arts Magazine here in Seattle. Most recently, the “2016 Future List Party” was held in the newly renovated, historic King Street Station. Music flowed as some of the most stylish people I have seen in town circled the floor enjoying freely delicious…

Person vs. Professional

I was one of probably three non-therapists this past month in Vancouver, British Columbia at an international Narrative Therapy conference. One of the founders talked about a moment in conversation where the person was taken aback at his authenticity and humanness. In response and to share where he was coming from, he said: “I’m trying to be a person. Not a person impersonating as…

Friendship in Adulthood

Everything we see around us in the natural world is the result of relationships. Atomic and subatomic particles (source, right), the elements that construct all that we see, are ultimately the result of relational bonds–particles in relationship with each other. We humans, like many other life forms, are also connected externally and socially in relationship with one another–embedded in a meaningful…

Syllabus, 2015-2016

I’m 8 weeks away from walking Seattle University‘s commencement stage–receiving a Master of Arts in Adult Education & Training, with a Human Resource Development specialization. How’s that for a mouth-full?! Human learning, evolution and development is a wonderful and inspiring thing. We learn all of our lives–taking-in, processing, and using the learning subconsciously and consciously. In “adult education” classes, we…