Emotional Hygiene

I just used a bidet for the first time. If me saying that reads as TMI (too much information), that proves the point that there are some kinds of hygiene we under-privilege and under-normalize in the United States. In Europe, say the word “bidet” and it’s as if you said “sink” or “shower.” (Image source) Next…

Zooming-In

Optical illusions are curious things (pictured right, source). We see what we see. That is, at first. Then, our minds and eyes are stretched to see something we didn’t catch to begin with. I remember first starting work at Condé Nast Digital and Vogue Runway (then Style.com). Mine was the task of managing SMS / text…

Person vs. Professional

I was one of probably three non-therapists this past month in Vancouver, British Columbia at an international Narrative Therapy conference. One of the founders talked about a moment in conversation where the person was taken aback at his authenticity and humanness. In response and to share where he was coming from, he said: “I’m trying to be a person. Not a person impersonating as…

The Hero’s Journey is Shared, Part II

True to form, I featured someone other than myself in the first post on this topic. I love being a witness to other people as heroes–including deeply appreciating and truly participating in their journey. The reality is that I show up everyday. I am on my own journey and it’s observable by others. People see me physically…

Like Yoga

This past quarter, I took a “Leading with Emotional Intelligence” class at Seattle University. It was one of the most meaningful experiences of my life, and one I will continue to hold and unpack in the months and years to come. As a part of the experience, we participated in a three day retreat. Many of…

No Label Needed

Labels, boxes, and language can be problematic. We think something isn’t real unless it fits in the confines of language, a box of understanding, or a clear label and name we can understand. This rigidity of thinking impacts not only what and how we value things, ideas, people and experiences but how we listen, understand…

Temperature

A thermostat is a beautiful thing. I’ve lived more life without one than with one, and let me tell you. It’s easy to forget how miraculous its effects can be. No matter what the time of year, your space can feel effortlessly comfortable and stable. Some friends (pictured right) are in the process of acquiring…

Black Coffee

During my time in Portland before New Year’s, I set foot in a few wonderful Stumptown Coffee spots, including the new and marvelous Roman Candle Baking Co. Knowing it would be sacrilegious to put cream and sugar even near the vicinity of the cup, I didn’t dump in my usual 4+ tablespoons of cream and 4…