Emotional Hygiene

I just used a bidet for the first time. If me saying that reads as TMI (too much information), that proves the point that there are some kinds of hygiene we under-privilege and under-normalize in the United States. In Europe, say the word “bidet” and it’s as if you said “sink” or “shower.” (Image source) Next…

The Things We Carry

My favorite bookstore in childhood was “The Bookery” in a place called Placerville, California (Pictured above, source and source) Every day-after-Christmas from the ages of 0 through 9, my dad and uncle (and sometimes my mom) would take me there. We would spend hours. And I would spend all of my holiday gift money on stacks and…

Person vs. Professional

I was one of probably three non-therapists this past month in Vancouver, British Columbia at an international Narrative Therapy conference. One of the founders talked about a moment in conversation where the person was taken aback at his authenticity and humanness. In response and to share where he was coming from, he said: “I’m trying to be a person. Not a person impersonating as…

Friendship in Adulthood

Everything we see around us in the natural world is the result of relationships. Atomic and subatomic particles (source, right), the elements that construct all that we see, are ultimately the result of relational bonds–particles in relationship with each other. We humans, like many other life forms, are also connected externally and socially in relationship with one another–embedded in a meaningful…

Credit

Unplanned, timely post for International Women’s Day 2016.  When it comes to human performance and talent, there are often a gap between what is perceived and reality. During my training in the philosophy and methods of skill development, Dr. Kevin Roessger shared the story of Mr. Molesley and the cricket match (pictured left; source) in Downton Abbey’s season 3, episode…

Doing the Work

There’s a framework (pictured right, source) known as the four stages of learning, four stages of competence, competence hierarchy, or the learning continuum. It presents the idea that humans can move in four stages from being unskilled to skilled–incompetent to competent. Moving from left to right: unconscious incompetence (not knowing what you don’t know), conscious incompetence (knowing you don’t know, but not knowing…

The Science of Sleep

Unknowingly, serendipitously timed for National Sleep Awareness Week, March 6-13 (which I literally learned about in publishing this post today, and coming across Dr. Darley’s Twitter).  Two weeks ago, I attended an hour-long workshop exclusively on the topic of “Sleep Health,” hosted by Naturopathic Sleep Medicine Specialist, Dr. Catherine Darley, as a human resource development resource at my workplace from Wellspring EAP….

The Face(s) of History

“The arts have the ability to rewrite history. Changing the face makes all the difference.” ~ Cindy Tran The above quote is from my friend and professional colleague, Cindy Tran (pictured right). Together, Cindy and I stumbled upon one of the most impactful events I’ve experienced in my lifetime to date. The work of Kehinde Wiley is now featured as…

Units of Time

The 2002 film, “About a Boy,” (pictured left; source) begins with the idea of “units of time” (watch the clip). The concept is that every day is made up of tiny increments of time that can be used. Sure, the main character is in an unrelate-able place of incredible privilege–having no need to work or make money….

The Hero’s Journey is Shared

We know the story well. Name a book, film or narrative of any shape or size, and there it is–the classic plot twist of a human adventuring though challenge and mishaps, and coming out the other side in the end. This reoccurring “Hero’s Journey” is a monomyth storyline that people like Joseph Campbell have analyzed and dissected from the gamut of…

Universal Design for (Brand) Architecture

At one of the most quaint and inviting nooks in all of Seattle called Bottlehouse, Sauntia (pictured above) and I met to have a perfect baguette, butter, and fresh honey with a glass of Sangiovese. No words can adequately describe Sauntia. She has an incredibly creative mind, bringing with her a wealth of life experiences–including formal training in social work and…